Sure men generally have the same triggers and desires but not the same cultural upbringing, values or expectations.Korean males in general have bigger builds and more dominant body-language than most other Asians.It’s quite easy to spot who’s dating who walking in any Korean downtown.Don’t forget that every month has unofficial couple days: January 14The Western term “casual dating” does not exist in South Korea. Which means when dating a Korean, he or she either only wants a physical, almost “secret” relationship or plans to get married to you.I’m not exactly quiet, and I’m definitely not the ‘submissive girl’ that many people see South Korean girls as. But somehow, my personality became a problem when I started dating men in South Korea at the age of 20. I thought, is my outgoing personality — which was attractive to them in the beginning — an obstacle to developing a stable relationship? A bunch of my girlfriends had similar worries when dating South Korean men.Many men approached me, expressing an interest in my outgoing personality. But sooner or later, they started to complain about things that energize my life, what I think are important, like interacting with people and having fun at interesting social gatherings. The biggest source of complaint was the irony of men applying different standards on their female friends and “girlfriend.” Some guys I knew loved hanging out with girls whom they called cool and funny — for example, girls who could drink two bottles of soju straight.Here are some things I heard from my ex’s: “Why do you have so many male friends? But the same guys would get angry when their own girlfriends tried to drink more than one can of beer.
Especially South Korea, a country so different from the West, dating culture bears certain do’s and don’ts that are not like at home.Approaching strangers is not common in this country. Maybe it’s because I never had to suffer through 16 hour school days. As a result, Korean women are either studying or working all day and sometimes all night. They want to get out, and they see dating a foreigner as a way to escape the high expectations.In fact, I once told a Korean friend of mine that walking up to a stranger and introducing yourself is not uncommon in the West. Maybe it’s because of the culture I grew up in, a culture that encourages being cool instead of being a crammer. They know that a Korean mother-in-law expects them to work all day and to be a perfect mother and housewife.Eventually, you’ll meet a woman who makes your heart thump, and you need to be prepared for this moment.You don’t want to be one of these guys who mess up every first date because they violate every unspoken rule of the Korean dating culture.